That two letter word is powerful and we all should use it more often.
Saying “No” seems to have become harder for many of us. With the constant pressure of being present at events, functions, social gatherings and being available 24/7 have subsequently demanded the expectation to always say yes without giving it much thought or being aware that you have a choice. This unspoken expectation in our digital age has also perpetuated that crippling fear… FOMO – fear of missing out.
All of a sudden, “Yes” is the automatic response to everything.
We constantly hear just how busy life has become these days. It is so exhausting to describe just how much and even more so hearing it from other people. Busy with trying to balance work, family and social commitments. We feel the stress, angst and anxiety as we hear how others have chosen such a fast-paced lifestyle.
“So many people spend their health gaining wealth, and then have to spend their wealth to regain their wealth”
– A.J. Reb Materi
We wanted out of the race. It was such a debilitating lifestyle, no way was it sustainable and we wanted to do things differently. We knew that we had a choice, a powerful decision that only we can make.
In order to be well balanced, we need to take care of ourselves first. We tend to forget to take care of ourselves as we subconsciously or consciously try to keep others happy.
We must first take care of ourselves so we can better take care of our loved ones. If we focus on activities that make us the happiest, that give us the most energy and vitality, then, the more love and care that we can provide to others.
So say, “yes” to me time and “no” to things that do not fit with your own values. Only you can determine what is important.
Interestingly enough, as we learnt to say “no” we found time to say “yes” to things that mattered to us. Our friends and family are constantly asking us, “how do you find the time to… do all that over the weekend?” from working out, cooking, reading, yoga and so on. Honestly, it was as simple as asking ourselves what is it that we value the most and the activities that we enjoy – by being really truthful without considering any external influences, we were able to be selective to what we say “yes” to.
By consciously asking ourselves this, we have become happier and content. It’s such a liberating experience just to focus on what we can control and to rid ourselves of the guilt, the FOMO and we never gave a second thought about what the others may think or say. What mattered is that we are respectful, kind and genuinely happy!
So next time, be honest with yourself, be bold and swim against the tide – give yourself the permission to just say “NO”!
“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself”
– Paulo Coelho